We are working on getting B adopted! The county was granted PC, noone appealed during the appeals time and we have been matched :). That makes me chuckle. We actually attended an official county pre-match meeting where we were interviewed and it was decided that we will be a good family for him. Good thing since it's almost been two years. We have been assessed by a psychologist and she also thinks we are bonded :))! It is almost comical how the system works. Last week we called the attorney and he got the paperwork started and we did another batch of paperwork with the county. On Saturday I found more documents in my mailbox from our attorney and it was soooo exciting to see his adoptive name on them. It made it almost feel real!
So, about B. He is the sweetest little boy! We have our days, but overall, he is just a little ball of joy, love and happiness. He is so much fun when we are out and about passing around fist bumps and yelling "Hi" to everyone. When I take him to the nursing home to visit Grams he is so comfortable with the elderly and some of them are somewhat scary looking. He runs down that hallway happily and he will even give her a big hug when we leave. He loves his siblings and adores Jeremy. He screams "Daddy" when Jeremy gets home from work and runs in for a big hug. He is often wrapped around my legs giving me hugs and he follows me around. The other day we were working in the basement and it was just he and I. He had crayons and paper and was busy coloring at my desk. A few minutes later I went to the bathroom and he comes walking in, plops himself on the ground with his stuff and starts coloring. He is my little buddy. I can't imagine our family without him. He is just a sweet, sweet boy! I thank God for letting us love him. I feel sad for people missing out on him.
Speaking of that, Jake often worries about his biological family. In his mind, they must be like us because he really doesn't know any different. He will often ask if his parents can come visit him when we adopt him because he assumes they must miss him and that B must miss them too. The other day when we were talking through this he said out of the blue, "Tell me the truth Mom....am I adopted?"
It is hard for little kids to understand situations like these. It seems unimaginable to them that b needs to be in our home forever because our kids know that he does have living parents. We have kept it pretty basic with them that they aren't able to care for him. Heck, it is hard for me to understand. I always thought we would adopt internationally assuming that if you were lucky enough to be born in the US your parents had resources to take care of you. Sadly, this is not always the case.
Even though it does not always end well in foster care and children do go back to horrible situations, I still advocate and encourage people to get involved. There are children who need someone to speak up for them, to take care of them and to love them.
We are so very thankful that God led us in this way because we have learned so much. Jeremy and I have grown deeply in our marriage over the last two years. We have become a team and it is very good. We feel much more our own family unit of 6 than we ever have before.
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